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don't do art, you won't be an artist." Benign advice -- now, profoundly mistaken. The whole world is engulfed in a revolution.

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I want you to spend the next 10 minutes being absurdly self-indulgent, which is advice I would almost never otherwise give people. I want you to not think about the things you can't control.

5 Practical Ways to Take Control of Your Life | Jim VandeHei | TED · TED

You control your reactions. The best advice I ever got was five words: Do the next right thing.

5 Practical Ways to Take Control of Your Life | Jim VandeHei | TED · TED

stay away from blue light. There are lots of services, products and advice columns that tell us we're sleeping wrong.

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have met this fate. Some advice to astrologers: keep away from kings and heights.

Beware the Power of Prediction | Carissa Véliz | TED · TED

So we stress about it for weeks. We prepare, we take all of the expert advice, and yet it never feels like we're coming from a position of strength.

What Successful Negotiators Do Differently | Kathryn Valentine | TED · TED

What if I told you that's because we've been given the wrong advice our whole lives? What if I told you there's another way,

What Successful Negotiators Do Differently | Kathryn Valentine | TED · TED

Because we continue to use strategies built for men. In fact, that's what most expert advice is. That's what I did,

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You. So let's ditch the bad advice and instead use this formula to ask for what you want in your life.

What Successful Negotiators Do Differently | Kathryn Valentine | TED · TED

You know, it used to be that in order to have a polite conversation, we just had to follow the advice of Henry Higgins in "My Fair Lady": Stick to the weather and your health.

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and how to listen. Many of you have already heard a lot of advice on this, things like look the person in the eye,

Celeste Headlee: 10 ways to have a better conversation | TED · TED

in a remote environment or at all? So here's the advice I would have given 22-year-old me who was fumbling to make connections.

3 Simple Ways to Build Stronger Relationships at Work | Alyssa Birnbaum | TED · TED

to their performance advantage, where they could get sex-specific injury prevention advice, where they could get nutritional advice,

What Women Athletes Need to Unlock Their Full Potential | Kate Ackerman | TED · TED

where they could get sex-specific injury prevention advice, where they could get nutritional advice, mental health support,

What Women Athletes Need to Unlock Their Full Potential | Kate Ackerman | TED · TED

can make so much difference to someone's life expectancy. How would that extend to advice, like, if someone is making a lifestyle choice

How to Make Stress Your Friend | Kelly McGonigal | TED · TED

We even convert our leisure into other forms of labor. My advice is to start small. How about a weekly walk with your best friend?

How to Reclaim Your Life From Work | Simone Stolzoff | TED · TED

or there's a park that's way too far, so sorry doctor, I can't take your advice to go and jog,

What makes us get sick? Look upstream | Rishi Manchanda

And I have to confess that usually I'm much better at giving advice than following it myself. But here's what I did.

Why Daylight Is the Secret to Great Sleep | Christine Blume | TED · TED

a few years ago a friend asked me to give a friend of hers advice that friend called me I related my

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and what you do on a daily basis. What advice do you give those who are trying to dig deep in this time,

The Grassroots Movement Transforming Public Safety | Aqeela Sherrills | TED · TED

what is that single piece of wisdom or advice you'd like to offer for navigating this insane moment that we're living through today?

The AI Revolution Is Underhyped | Eric Schmidt | TED · TED

That's the key thing. So my advice to you all is ride the wave, but ride it every day. Don't view it as episodic and something you can end,

The AI Revolution Is Underhyped | Eric Schmidt | TED · TED

in uh it's going to be very very choppy Waters indeed what advice do you have for Claudia Shin bam who clearly she can't

The Biggest Global Risks for 2025 | TED Explains the World with Ian Bremmer · TED

because it's only by knowing about you that they can actually give you wise advice that's tailored to what you need and who you know.

Can Big Tech and Privacy Coexist? | Carole Cadwalladr and Chris Anderson | TED · TED

Baron Ryan: I respect my dad's opinion a lot, and so oftentimes I won't call him for advice because I'm scared --

A Filmmaker + a Therapist on People-Pleasing | TED Intersections · TED

I respect my dad's opinion a lot. And so oftentimes I won't call him for advice because I'm scared -- SRYA: That I'm wrong.

A Filmmaker + a Therapist on People-Pleasing | TED Intersections · TED

At that point, I was living an experience outside of his experience. Like, I couldn't go to him as the person that could give me all of the advice. And he always has opinions.

A Filmmaker + a Therapist on People-Pleasing | TED Intersections · TED

And you know, what gaps can we fill in? So I think the advice is really, get into the space, get going. I think a lot of times people want to sort of do a lot of fact-finding

How Do You Turn Setbacks Into Motivation? A Doctor + A Trauma Specialist Answer | TED Intersections · TED

until you figure out as much as you can about the system. And then I think maybe I'd say the third piece of advice would be to make sure that you've got an awesome team.

How Do You Turn Setbacks Into Motivation? A Doctor + A Trauma Specialist Answer | TED Intersections · TED

act classroom in her child's classroom. She says what advice do you have for parents who want to give their kids more

How to Raise Confident Kids in an Age of Anxiety | Lenore Skenazy | TED · TED

And if your instinct is to break up and leave, which is advice so many of us give our friends when they're in unhealthy relationships,

The difference between healthy and unhealthy love | Katie Hood | TED · TED

when they're in unhealthy relationships, that's not always the best advice. Time of breakup can be a real trigger for violence.

The difference between healthy and unhealthy love | Katie Hood | TED · TED

If you fear you might be headed towards abuse or in abuse, you need to consult with experts to get the advice on how to leave safely. But it's not just about romantic relationships

The difference between healthy and unhealthy love | Katie Hood | TED · TED

I need your help. I need your advice." And my monster was delighted.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Because, quite frankly, my advice monster already knew exactly what it wanted to tell her. But I'm pretty good at the fake active listening.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Exactly. But honestly, my advice monster's like, "Could we just hurry this up, please?

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Finally, Shannon finished. So finally, I was able to share my brilliant advice. And make no mistake, it was brilliant.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Yeah, maybe. OK. Yeah, nice idea. Honestly, my advice, my help was going nowhere. My advice monster had sabotaged the conversation ... again.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Honestly, my advice, my help was going nowhere. My advice monster had sabotaged the conversation ... again. Now this isn’t just a Michael thing.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

It's not even a mansplaining thing. You, all of you, you know your advice monster. Somebody starts telling you about something,

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

you definitely don't have the technical specifications. And after about 10 seconds, your advice monster is like, "Oh, oh, I've got something to say here."

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

(Laughter) You know, research tells us that medical doctors’ advice monsters tend to interrupt their patients after about 11 seconds.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

and you're thinking to yourself, "Michael, it's true. Other people's advice monsters are very annoying. Really, really pretty irritating.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Really, really pretty irritating. But my advice, my advice is honestly, pretty fantastic. And what's wrong with advice, anyway?"

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

But my advice, my advice is honestly, pretty fantastic. And what's wrong with advice, anyway?" Well, look, there is nothing wrong with advice.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

And what's wrong with advice, anyway?" Well, look, there is nothing wrong with advice. Advice is a key part of civilization.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Well, look, there is nothing wrong with advice. Advice is a key part of civilization. I mean, TED, TEDx, it is one large forum for advice.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Advice is a key part of civilization. I mean, TED, TEDx, it is one large forum for advice. The problem isn't with advice.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

I mean, TED, TEDx, it is one large forum for advice. The problem isn't with advice. The problem is when giving advice becomes our default response.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

The problem isn't with advice. The problem is when giving advice becomes our default response. And we all have this ingrained way of behaving.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

For most of us, it's become a habit. It's become an advice-giving habit. Or ...

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

(Laughter) And it turns out, there are three ways that advice giving goes bad. The first two are kind of connected.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

The first two are kind of connected. Here's the first challenge with advice giving. You're busy solving the wrong problem.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

you are finding and working on the real challenge. Here's the second issue with advice giving. Your advice is not nearly as good as you think it is.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Here's the second issue with advice giving. Your advice is not nearly as good as you think it is. And if you're thinking to yourself, "Oh no, no, Michael, no, no.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

And if you're thinking to yourself, "Oh no, no, Michael, no, no. My advice is magnificent." Well, I'd encourage you to go watch all those TED videos on cognitive biases

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Well, I'd encourage you to go watch all those TED videos on cognitive biases that will explain just how bad your advice normally is, particularly if you think you give good advice.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

that will explain just how bad your advice normally is, particularly if you think you give good advice. But those first two are just you kind of wasting people's time and life

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

(Laughter) The third issue about giving advice cuts a little deeper, and it cuts both ways.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

and it cuts both ways. If you are on the receiving end of advice, if you're on the receiving end of somebody's advice monster,

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

If you are on the receiving end of advice, if you're on the receiving end of somebody's advice monster, you're constantly getting the message that you can't figure this out yourself.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

And if you're on the other side of the equation, if you have an advice monster, and if I can be clear, you all have an advice monster,

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

if you have an advice monster, and if I can be clear, you all have an advice monster, well, forget about the fact that you're disempowering people,

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

So what's going on with that? Well it's your advice monster. You keep feeding it, and it is insatiable.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Somebody starts talking and your advice monster looms up out of the dark and goes, "Oh, oh, I'm going to add some value to this conversation.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

(Laughter) You have to learn to tame your advice monster. And to tame it, you have to understand it.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

And to tame it, you have to understand it. And it turns out your advice monster has three different personas. And you listen up,

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

you'll hear the one that resonates most for you. The first persona of the advice monster is “Tell it.” Tell it.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Yeah, I thought as much. The second advice monster, a little more subtle. It’s called “Save it.”

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Exactly. The third of the advice monsters, the sneakiest of the three is “Control it.”

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

And this is an important point, in that singular moment, when your advice monster is in control, you are saying that you are better than the other person.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

But it's not only the other person that is diminished in this moment when your advice monster is in control, you're diminished as well.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

you're diminished as well. Because when your advice monster is in control, you lose that connection to your humanity.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Rather than that, let me give you a quick primer on how you might go about taming your advice monster. And what you're looking to do is replace an old habit,

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

And what you're looking to do is replace an old habit, the advice-giving habit, with a new habit.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

Well, questions are the kindling of curiosity. They're the light that holds back that darkness of the advice monster. So let me share with you the three questions

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

"What's the real challenge here for you?" keep your advice monster at bay, It repositions you to say,

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

So when you ask "and what else," not only does it tame your advice monster, but it helps you go deeper and further on any question that you ask.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

I spent a lot of time on his stoa, his porch, asking life and training advice. He was part of the Solidarity in Poland,

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And why that matters is if I'd been busy trying to solve that first challenge, I'd be offering up my slightly crappy advice to solve the wrong problem.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

And when that happens, your advice monster really has not much chance. So that's the challenge in front of us to replace an old habit,

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

So that's the challenge in front of us to replace an old habit, the advice-giving habit, with a brand new habit, staying curious a little bit longer.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

and inviting others to step in and to step up. And all of that becomes possible when you tame your advice monster. Thank you.

How to Tame Your Advice Monster | Michael Bungay Stanier | TED · TED

to make sure they are happy and healthy. There's so many books offering all kinds of conflicting advice, it can be really overwhelming.

Lessons from the longest study on human development | Helen Pearson

Just imagine if everybody had a personalized tutor in their pocket and access to low-cost medical advice. A lawyer and a doctor,

What Is an AI Anyway? | Mustafa Suleyman | TED · TED

And I know in the book you talk about ... how the advice you offer, the wisdom you offer is not just drawn from your own study

The Secret to a Happy Life — Lessons from 8 Decades of Research | Robert Waldinger | TED · TED

They ask: “As a mother of two very young children, what advice do you have for parents to build strong, healthy relationships,

The Secret to a Happy Life — Lessons from 8 Decades of Research | Robert Waldinger | TED · TED

It helps us figure out when we can forge ahead on our own decisions and instincts and when we need, instead, to seek out advice. But psychological research suggests that we're not very good

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to adopt the changes that our communities require to survive. Here's my advice about how to be the change makers we need. First, activism and engagement must create community and solidarity.

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Predictably, I hated that job. So after a few years and against all the wise advice I heard in my life, I decided to close my insurance agency and try my hand at writing graphic novels.

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"Gene, you have lived in America for 100 years. Do you have any advice during these current times?" He smiled and said to me simply, "Yes.

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many of whom traveled thousands of miles to be there to celebrate him, I realized that he had not just given me advice, he had given me the first step

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