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So then one night after work, I met some friends online who were live streaming themselves playing video games on Twitch,

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didn't have a dorm room so I slept on the floor in friends rooms I returned Coke bottles for the 5-cent deposits to

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but then would collect herself by saying, "You can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends." Well one day, Emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap,

Why 30 is not the new 20 | Meg Jay

Second, I told Emma that the urban tribe is overrated. Best friends are great for giving rides to the airport, but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers

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New things come from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends. So yes, half of twentysomethings are un- or under-employed.

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Last but not least, Emma believed that you can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends. Now this was true for her growing up,

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maybe you played in a band, or maybe just had a great group of friends that loved to hang out together.

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if you do things that would make you proud, your parents proud, your kids proud, your friends proud, you do that and then do it again,

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That forms your reality. Your podcasts, your YouTube channels, your newsletters, your friends. It's all a reality-shaping machine.

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I have an amazing wife, three wondrous children and tons of really great friends and colleagues who poured a lot of knowledge

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Now, AI companies are coming for their relationships to be their friends, their therapists, and even their sexual partners.

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let's suppose that they really can give us excellent friends and excellent romantic partners.

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their children to ride bicycles with their friends and to do errands so that they can feel useful.

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fighting in our own towns. I lost friends. My house was destroyed,

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And one time when I was about 12 years old, one of my closest friends finally worked up the courage to ask me about it. And I could tell she was so nervous.

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changed all of my relationships. I've turned countless strangers into friends or into acquaintances at least --

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Alright, my apologies, my friends in the front row, you should be warned, it will get worse before it gets better.

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It's how T-shirt cannons fire T-shirts. And for my friends in the front row, it’s how straws fire spit wads.

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You know, it goes back to the status quo. People don't generally view themselves or their neighbors or their friends or everyone they know as unsafe drivers,

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It was moments with parents. It was moments with their best friends when they would whisper to each other in childhood.

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And then it felt right. And you know how you talk to friends -- at some point I was walking around and I was sending it a voice message.

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Singles give more time, they're more likely to care for elderly parents and disabled friends, more so than their non-single counterparts.

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I do meaningful work, I have a wide and deep connected group of friends. I feel wholehearted, and I hope you do too.

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who had a friendship like ours, and I wrote a book about them. And the kinds of friends that I spoke to, they don't just have a weekly phone call.

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they don't just have a weekly phone call. They're friends like these. Natasha and Linda are the first legally recognized platonic co-parents in Canada.

Why Friendship Can Be Just As Meaningful as Romantic Love | Rhaina Cohen | TED · TED

And this is them with their teenage son on vacation. Joe and John have been best friends for many decades. When Joe was struggling with alcohol and drug use,

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her friend's chest was still rising and falling. Some of the friends that I spoke to had this friendship occupy the space that's conventionally given to a romantic partner.

Why Friendship Can Be Just As Meaningful as Romantic Love | Rhaina Cohen | TED · TED

In ancient Rome, friends would talk about each other as "half of my soul," or "the greater part of my soul."

Why Friendship Can Be Just As Meaningful as Romantic Love | Rhaina Cohen | TED · TED

there was a practice called “sworn brotherhood,” where male friends would go through a ritual that would turn them into brothers.

Why Friendship Can Be Just As Meaningful as Romantic Love | Rhaina Cohen | TED · TED

About a century ago, friends would sit for portraits like these, with their arms wrapped around each other,

Why Friendship Can Be Just As Meaningful as Romantic Love | Rhaina Cohen | TED · TED

I feel like I get to live in a future world where you can just build a life with your friends. I live not only with my husband

Why Friendship Can Be Just As Meaningful as Romantic Love | Rhaina Cohen | TED · TED

I live not only with my husband but also two of my closest friends. One of them we kind of like had a courtship process

Why Friendship Can Be Just As Meaningful as Romantic Love | Rhaina Cohen | TED · TED

It didn't take long for us to start scheming with about a half dozen other friends, about trying to buy property together.

Why Friendship Can Be Just As Meaningful as Romantic Love | Rhaina Cohen | TED · TED

whether that's a spouse, a sibling or a house full of friends. Thank you.

Why Friendship Can Be Just As Meaningful as Romantic Love | Rhaina Cohen | TED · TED

Share this with the other women that you care about, your family, your friends, your classmates, your colleagues,

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But I think there's two reasons why we tend to really devalue it. One reason is because we just don't know how to make friends. So luckily, I am going to help you with that a little bit today.

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And we make decisions about where to live, who to marry and even who our friends are going to be, based on what we already believe.

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about a third of American teenagers send more than a hundred texts a day. And many of them, almost most of them, are more likely to text their friends than they are to talk to them face to face.

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And how we walk across this tightrope handling this paradox of people says a lot about our ability to make and keep friends. Because if we find ourselves stuck in the place

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

And this really materialized for me one day when I had bought an apartment, and I was really excited to make friends with my neighbors because I'm like, "I'm going to be here for a while."

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

to talk to my neighbors and says to me, you know, "You're writing this book on friends. What would you tell other people who are in your situation?"

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

And so two observations that I have on friendship and two takeaways for what we can do to make and keep friends. First observation,

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

That if I was just there hoping that my neighbors would someday try to be my friends, it probably wouldn't happen, right?

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

And so I would need to make that effort in order to be able to make friends. But second observation that I have,

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

than we think. Which leads me to my first takeaway for making friends. If you want to make friends,

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

Which leads me to my first takeaway for making friends. If you want to make friends, you have to assume that people like you, right?

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

hoping that my neighbors talk to me. And so to make friends, you have to overcome covert avoidance by not just showing up,

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

while we all face this dilemma, that, if we want to make friends, if we want to connect with people,

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

and really when we start to see that it becomes more difficult for people to make friends in the same way as you did when you were kids?

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

and he has this theory called the “theory of chums,” which is basically that our chums or our friends earlier in life, they provide us with the sort of relationship template

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

And there is some research that finds that if we connect in childhood, we have good friends in childhood, we have higher self-esteem in adulthood,

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

is similar to the chumship experience, in that with your friends, you share things that you feel like you should be ashamed of, right?

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

But what Stack Sullivan argues, is that when kids share this shame with their friends and their friends are like, you know, we still love you.

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

is that when kids share this shame with their friends and their friends are like, you know, we still love you. You know, this isn't a big deal for us, right?

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

And so in that way, the experience of experiencing that platonic love from our friends, especially at that time in childhood, teenagers,

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

than throughout our whole lifespan, right? That our friends are there at that time when we're so high in shame, to help us integrate that and to help us connect to all sides of ourselves

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

as you get more confident, you start to lose some of the ability to make new friends, but also using that confidence,

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

but also using that confidence, leaning into it to actually make the friends is what you need. So it's fascinating.

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

So I think sometimes we see, we think of like, "Oh, are my friends a threat to my spouse? My spouse is spending time with their friends,

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

"Oh, are my friends a threat to my spouse? My spouse is spending time with their friends, they're not spending time with me."

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

we will see that there's actually synergy between these relationships. That my spouse having friends outside of this relationship is what makes them a better spouse for me.

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

We have lots of questions that are coming in about, sort of, the steps to actually making friends. And I think before we get into some of those specific questions,

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

tools that people use to build new friendships? MF: So I can walk through my own experience of making a bunch of friends and share this in a story.

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

I went to Mexico City alone and was there for 10 days and was like, OK, if I spend ten days here and don't make any friends, I'm going to be very lonely.

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

I'm going to be very lonely. So how did I make friends when I was there? First I went to a coffee shop.

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

You know what I realized, too, from the research on friendship, I used to think that making friends was about being interesting, being smart, being insightful, being charismatic, being entertaining.

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

budding friendship groups, for like 12 weeks, which of these pairs ended up becoming friends. And it was the ones that shared the most affirmation

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

So when we show people "I like you," we're telling them, "Hey, you're not going to get rejected if you try to be friends with me." And that makes people really feel safe connecting with us, right?

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

And then I went to my Spanish class, which, if you don't have any friends, what I recommend is that you join something that's repeated over time.

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

I said repeated unplanned interaction and shared vulnerability is that infrastructure that kids have for friends that we lack as adults.

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

turn your hobby into a community, right, that's a really important way to make friends. So for me, it's I want to take the Spanish class

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

that you shared in "The Atlantic" where you talked about the concept of super friends. So what makes someone a super friend,

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So what makes someone a super friend, and how can we all strive to be super friends? MF: Yeah, secure friends, aka super friends.

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

and how can we all strive to be super friends? MF: Yeah, secure friends, aka super friends. These people are secure with themselves,

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

and figure out something that will work for both of us. So they tend to be quite healing friends. They tend to be --

The Secret to Making New Friends as an Adult | Marisa G. Franco | TED · TED

and nurturing those types of relationships? MF: So there's research on long-distance friends that finds that we are helped

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Like, if you don't talk to your friend awhile, assume that they're still interested in being friends with you. Again, this isn't about, you know, being delusional.

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but I was on the phone with everyone I knew: friends, old clients, former colleagues, every boss I ever had,

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She wasn't seeing her family, or her friends or her coworkers in person anymore, and she often went weeks only spending quality time with her husband.

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Well it’s about developing close relationships with your family, your friends, your partner, yourself. It's about having regular interaction with your coworkers, your neighbors.

Why Social Health Is Key to Happiness and Longevity | Kasley Killam | TED · TED

with demanding jobs, they rarely have time to see friends or spend time one-on-one.

Why Social Health Is Key to Happiness and Longevity | Kasley Killam | TED · TED

by planning trips to see family and inviting friends in other cities to come visit. And bolstering her social health

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One participant stated that, "If my friends did not bug me, I would rarely work out," while another encouraged other women to get involved with a community

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is more important to you than their approval, then my friends, it is time to jump.

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I went back to medical school, and I watched my friends row in Sydney from patient rooms in the hospital, on the TV.

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and an endocrine fellowship. At this point, my family, my friends, my colleagues thought I was nuts.

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That same year, my friends and I thought it would be really cool to throw a female athlete conference.

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And the world as we know it came to a screeching halt. We were taking care of our family, our friends, our patients. We lost loved ones.

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that strengthen close relationships. Oxytocin makes you crave physical contact with your friends and family. It enhances your empathy.

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They also asked, "How much time have you spent helping out friends, neighbors, people in your community?"

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or when I'm struggling to find the words to write a eulogy hours after losing one of my closest friends. Of course, stressing over spilled milk

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autonomous and connected; responsible to self, friends, family, to community;

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Certainly, we are all more than just workers. We’re parents and friends and citizens and artists and travelers and neighbors.

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And it all started with your commitment to start walking, your agreement to organize your friends and family and your belief in our broader mission.

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One well-trained organizer has the power to change the behavior of 100 of her friends. We know that is true,

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to organize the memorial service and the obituary, to notify friends, to alert the banks. It was really the busiest time I've known.

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and indeed across their lifespans, they're always surrounded by extended family, by friends, by neighbors, the priest, the barkeeper, the grocer.

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I noticed something strange. I was thinking much more fondly about my friends when I wasn't saying a word.

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and she makes them with her daughters every Sunday and distributes them by the dozens to neighbors and friends. And that's when I discovered a low-fat, gluten-free diet

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